As I write this, today is the first day of school. For BOTH of my kids. 

The house is quiet. I am alone. 

I have zero immediate childcare related tasks that have to happen. 

I have my coaching work prepped and ready to go. I sit down at my desk. I start to feel the familiar feeling. 

Maybe you know it. 

The feeling of an itchy sweater. Of spontaneous hunger. Of restless legs. Of butterflies in your stomach. 

The feeling of knowing that you have to get down to work. And you're going to have to use your brain. And it's going to be hard. And it's going to be uncomfortable. 

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How do you feel when you hear the C word?

I'm talking about your capital 'C' Career. 

Are you excited by it? Do you love getting up in the morning? Do you feel inspired?

Or, are you indifferent to it? Do you think of how much you don't want to go first thing when you wake up? Do you feel stuck?

Maybe you're somewhere in the middle, a combination of conflicting feelings?

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Maybe you're like me. 

I grew up working hard. But working hard on the path that was already carefully paved for me. 

I knew what was expected of me and what I had to do to check all of the boxes. I got good grades. Excelled at sports. Went to a good college. 

I never really questioned it. And I was happy in my lane. 

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Today was an awesome day.

I went to a yoga class for the first time in 3 months. I hung out with my family. The weather was perfection. Both kids were delightful and very well behaved. All the makings of a perfect day. 

And then tonight after dinner, I found myself in a mini-mental-meltdown. There was no real cause. No tantrum that pushed me over the edge. It's like my brain was a car engine and it just started overheating after running all day long. 

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Here's a thought:  It's not true that people can hurt your feelings. 

Let me explain. 

We grow up to believe that feelings are something that other people can influence. 

"Don't do that, it will hurt their feelings." 

We give other people the power to make us feel good or bad: 
 - My boss was rude = I feel offended.
 - My friend was a jerk = I feel angry. 
 - My partner was lazy = I feel annoyed. 

But the truth is, our feelings come from how we think. And we are in charge of our own thoughts. 

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